My colleague while having lunch today asked me "How do you draw a perfectly thick eye liner, every day. It looks so thick and very well balanced and flawless. How long does it take you to do it"?
I told her "take a closer look", she asked me why. "Just do it" I said.
Then I asked "what do you see",
"Your eyes" she said.
"Look at my eyeliner you moron" I said.
"Yes. It's your eyes with the eyeliner that I see now. Will you cut the crap and tell me" she said.
"Can you tell if the eyeliner is actually perfect, the length, the edge of the drawing, the width", I said.
After looking at my eyes deeply for a few second, then she said "yeah, it’s not the same length, the width actually seems off a bit".
I was smiling to her and I said "you are looking at it as it appears but in actual fact it is not as perfect as it seems".
She smiled and we walked back to our place to continue with work.
I think life is the same way.
Anything and everything can and will look simply perfect, flawless if we think it is.
Same as my eyeliner story, this is about me wearing a Saree.
Saree is our traditional Indian costume and refer here for elaborate details on it. "Coz I'm not talking about Saree here".
I love to wear Saree, but had a tough time learning to tie/wear one actually. Hence, my sister (twin) will be the one whom I will sort after for help, for any occasion that requires Saree.
While she is doing me a huge favor, I would make fuss that she is just not doing it the right way. (I regret those moments now)...@-@
I would sulk throughout the time I'm donning it. I would complaint endlessly that it's just not worn correctly, there seem to be a lengthy part in it and blah blah blah.....
And now that she is married and staying away from our house, especially away from me. I had no choice but to learn how to wear the Saree on my own. It wasn’t difficult, even though I could put it on for someone else, I find it difficult to wear it myself most of the time. Especially if it’s those though to handle materials. **There is zillions of it, trust me**
Over the time, over hard work and precision of technique I learned that it actually needs not to be perfect in every angle. And it’s pretty interesting that, what I learned is actually how to hide the flaws of the Saree flawlessly is what makes it exquisite in a way.
I had to attend an Indian Classical based show, invited by a friend. I was adamant to myself to wear a Saree but I was also worried that it might take me more time to actually wear it properly.
I had limited time to wear it as I was running behind schedule (the usual thing because of my visit to my Hairdresser, very typical of me). To my surprise I did not even stand in front of the mirror and fidget the Saree to make it look perfect, while I wore it. Instead I sort of rushed the entire process in less then quarter of the usual time that I spent completing the mission, because I did not want my friend waiting up for me.
To my surprise, I was complimented by my sister that my Saree looked beautiful and perfectly tied. And I was standing there and thinking to myself again and again that I did not wear it properly because I had secured the Saree with safety pin and my selection of Saree type (the material is the easy going one).
And then it came to my sense that, the Saree type and the safety pin did the trick for the day and saved me the compliments.
What I learned is that, the harder we try to make everything to look perfect the more it would fail.
Sometimes, a little invisible flaw and technical fixing at the background like my invisible safety pins does give the Saree an entirely unexpected appearance that it looked absolutely flawless.
So to speak Perfect but actually not so Perfect.
